The Neurotic Fishbowl Archives: April 2004

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A Ponderance

I was talking to a guy yesterday and the fact that I am a fount of useless information came up (he's started calling me Mistress of Useless Knowledge, which I completely dig). He asked me if I knew how the tradition of men opening doors for women started and I was stumped. I looked online, but couldn't find anything. Does anyone happen to know? It's bugging me that I can't find it.

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Going To The Chapel

I've got some new pictures up over at the Neurotic Fishbowl Moblog, the lastest of which are me in Christine's tiara and her in her wedding dress (yesterday was dress fitting day for us and her other bridesmaid).

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The Five Levels of Drinking

Not that I'm acquainted with any of this or anything, but Larry Miller's "The Five Levels of Drinking" has got to be one of the funniest things I've ever heard. As always, right click and Save As.

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Club 1127

My brother Russell, his roomate Boob, and a few of their friends are notorious party animals. To showcase their bashes, they created Club 1127. Go take a peek, watch some videos, and be jealous that you're not related. ;-)

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Dirty Bug

I was going to go to bed, but I decided that I'd have sex one more time (over on Breedster, you pervert!).

Apparently, I really am a slutty bug because I just got this message, "A sexually transmitted virus has affected your reproductive system; all eggs are infertile. You cannot invite any friends. Fornication will transmit the virus to your partner." (If you're a bug too, watch out for mbvisiontt - he's the one who infected me.)

Of course the FAQ doesn't say anything at all about STDs, so I have no idea if my bug is now infertile forever or if somehow I can visit a bug hospital and get better. Anyone else have this happen to them?

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Window Shopping

I took the OK!Cupid Test to find out my love personality. It was really accurate, especially the part about me obsessing over a guy that I've just met (What? Me? Obsess? Never!).

I am The Window Shopper! Random Gentle Love Dreamer (RGLDf)

Loving, hopeful, open. Likely to carry on an romance from afar. You are The Window Shopper.

You take love as opportunities come, which can lead to a high-anxiety, but high-flying romantic life. You're a genuinely sweet person, not saccharine at all, so it's likely that the relationships you have had and will have will be happy ones. You've had a fair amount of love experience for your age, and there'll be much more to come.

Part of why we know this is that, of all female types, you are the most prone to sudden, ferocious crushes. Your results indicate that you're especially capable of obsessing over a guy you just met. Obviously, passion like this makes for an intense existence. It can also make for soul-destroying letdowns.

Your ideal match is someone who'll love you back with equal fire, and someone you've grown to love slowly. A self-involved or pessimistic man is especially bad. Though you're drawn to them, avoid artists at all costs.

Your exact opposite: The Stiletto (Deliberate Brutal Sex Master)

BEWARE: The Hornivore
CONSIDER: The Gentleman, The Loverboy

(Link courtesy of Kristine.)

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Come and Be My Bug Baby

Does anyone want to be my bug baby on Breedster? I'm getting ready to fornicate again (I'm a slutty bug; I'm only one day and sixteen hours old and I've already had four mates), so this is your chance since joining is by invitation only.

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Happy Birthday, Kristine!

Today is Kristine's birthday. She happens to be one of the most talented, scripty-type people that I know and I just adore her. Happy birthday, hon! Hope it's a good one filled with everything your heart desires!

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Victory Coalition Now

Michele and several other bloggers are helping to raise money for the Spirit of America, an organization that helps expand the abilities of Americans serving abroad to improve the quality of life of people in need.

Michele is doing dedications and promising grab bags to those that donate. Got a few extra bucks? Why not go help out?

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Insomnia

It should be illegal to wake up at 6:00 in the morning when you only went to bed two or three hours earlier. Fucking insomnia. And since I'm a pupa, I can't even play over at Breedster. Blah.

Update: Thank god that Robin couldn't sleep either and has been my phone buddy for the past hour!

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Being a Bug

Thanks to Katie, I'm now a bug on Breedster. Well, right now I'm a larva, but soon I'll grow up and be a bug. Here's what I look like:

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Fonty Goodness

Today only, P22, the coolest font foundry around, is having a 50% sale to mark their ten year anniversary. Just enter TEN into the pricing category box when you check out.

I join their font club every year and have bought several hundred dollars worth of fonts from them over the years. Their stuff is well worth checking out.

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Burn It - The Spring 2004 Edition

I know that this edition is really close to the last one, but I want to get the editions closer to the actual season they're supposed to represent (Nothing like doing the winter one in March!). Sign-ups begin now and, as always, please be sure to read the rules carefully before signing up!

The Theme:
At the last Tiara Happy Hour Emily gave me the perfect theme - cover songs. Any cover of any kind of song by any band works for this. Update: if you don't have 80 minutes worth of cover songs, it's perfectly acceptable to fill up some of the space with the original version of the song and then the cover. If you're looking for ideas of songs to use, tj pointed out The Covers Project which has a ton of information on covers.

Here's how it works:
After the sign up period, people will be put into groups of 4. You will then receive an e-mail from me telling you the names and addresses of the people in your group. You burn 5 identical CDs. Keep one for yourself and send the other three to the other people in your group and one to me. New Rule: Since so many people have been complaining that they haven't gotten CDs from people in their group, I am now requiring that you send one to me so I can keep track of who sent them out and who didn't. I hate to do this, but it seems the best way to keep track. You should then receive three new CDs from the other three people in your group.

The rules:
- You should have a blog. I would like this to be a fun way to connect people in the blogosphere. If you don't, go over to Diaryland or Blogspot and start one for free.
- If you're not going to follow through and make your CDs, please don't bother signing up. It would be a shame if one or two people ruined this for their group. If you signed up last swap and didn't send your CDs out, don't sign up this time.
- You must live in the US or Canada. If there's a intrest in this in other areas, I may do a swap at some point down the road that includes other countries, but since this is the first swap, I'm going to limit it to the areas where I know most of you guys live.
- If you live in the US, you should be willing to ship to Canada. If you live in Canada, you should be willing to ship to the US. The postage is a teeny bit more, but nothing that's going to break the bank.
- Remember that most people can't play mp3s in their car, so make sure they're something that will play in a standard car stereo. I tend to use .cda or .wav files. I have put together a list of Burn It resources for those not familiar with making CDs.
- Please be sure to put your name, URL, or e-mail on your CD somewhere. I got several last time that I liked, but have no idea who sent them.

Guidlines on creating your CDs:
- Include a track listing. If someone like an artist, they might want to buy more music by them. Let us know who it is.
- Fill up the CD as much as you can. There's 80 minutes on a blank CD. Don't half-ass it and make a 30 minute CD.
- You should definitely use a jewel case when sending your CDs to protect it during mailing. You can get them cheap anywhere.
- I know a lot of people are graphically inclined, so feel free to make your CD a work of art.
- Don't be afraid to put on "cheesy" music. If you like it, others probably will too.
- Don't be afraid to put on music that no one has ever heard before either. Billboard or MTV may never have known this music, but you did, so that's what counts.

If you've gotten this far and you still want to sign up, send an e-mail (change the AT to an @ in my e-mail address) to me and make sure you reference the swap in the subject line. You must include the following information (please send your info even if I already have it):

- Your name
- Mailing address
- Your blog URL
- Your e-mail address

Sign-ups will continue through Monday, May 10th. By Thursday, May 13th, I will send e-mails to everyone letting you know who is in your group. You should have all of your CDs burned and in the mail NO LATER THAN Monday, May 31st. This gives you at least a full three weeks to create and ship CDs to your three group partners and me.

Please spread the word! More people equals more music! Just be sure to link to this URL, because eventually this entry will cycle off the main page.

If you have any other questions, you can e-mail me or leave a comment.

Special thanks goes out to Alison for both the inspiration and allowing me to use most of her rules and guidelines.

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The Dr. Phil Test

I don't watch Dr. Phil, but I found the Dr. Phil Test to be pretty accurate.

Your total score is 40

Interpretation of Results
Others see you as sensible, cautious, careful & practical. They see you as clever, gifted, or talented, but modest. Not a person who makes friends too quickly or easily, but someone who's extremely loyal to friends you do make and who expect the same loyalty in return. Those who really get to know you realize it takes a lot to shake your trust in your friends, but equally that it takes you a long time to get over it if that trust is ever broken.

(Link courtesy of Lisa, who had the same score I did.)

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Civil Disobedience

My great-great uncle's funeral was held in Winchester, this little bitty town outside of Giddings which is on the way to Austin. Needless to say, there's a lot of small town mentality going on, especially in the church (just about everyone out there is Missouri Synod Lutheran, which I refer to as Misery Synod).

On our way out, my mother says something about not freaking out about a sign. I ask what sign she's talking about and she points out a sign that someone made on their computer. It says, all in caps, "Attention! Call or write your congressman in support of the marriage bill against gay marriages! Please act within the next 6 weeks!!!!!"

Needless to say, I freak out and start telling my mom that being Christian is supposed to be about being kind and tolerant, etc. We go down to the cemetery (and I had a lovely chat with my aunt Susan on the way down there; she totally rocks) and on my way back, I swing into the church and steal their damn sign. I considered it my civil disobedience act of the day. Damn intolerant people.

(This whole episode made me think of Eka's rant about the last time she went to church.)

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You stole their sign? Haha! That's awesome! Now if you could just find some of those knuckleheads to beat over the head with it!

Posted by Buzz at April 16, 2004 06:25 AM

I don't think you're supposed to refer to it as a "damn" sign, are you? Tee hee!

You're such a rebel!

Posted by Christine at April 16, 2004 06:12 PM

Good for you for stealing that sign. I have a big gripe with organized religion in general, especially after a combination of things: losing my brother made me question a lot, and then there was a wedding I was in this past fall, where those bridal party members not receiving communion had to cross their arms over their chest to communicate their noncompliance. I felt like I was a pariah by X-ing myself out from participation, while, as you said, christianity is supposed to preach tolerance and acceptance. So good for you. I stole a sign from a church once, but it was a "please turn out the lights when leaving" sign from a bathroom that I had just finished retching in during a festival sponsored by the church that provided ample alcoholic beverages. Talk about sacrilege.

Posted by Traci at April 16, 2004 10:35 PM

You go girl, my feeling if 65% of heterosexual relation ships
end in divorce, what right do we have tell anyone why they can’t get married..

One more cute guy that can dress well off the market for the ladies is
a plus in my book… Leaves more for me to be shot down by :-)

Posted by Todd at April 16, 2004 10:57 PM

I found some form about being against gay marriage on my mom's desk with mine and my husband's names on it. When I read what it was all about, I yelled at her for trying to sign me up for something like that and told her that I didn't care who married whom, it's none of my business. She never said anything about it again and I threw the forms away (at my house).

Posted by NinaKaye at April 17, 2004 12:17 PM

You are my hero. These days, there is so much of this type of crap I just shrug my shoulders and say "Well, what can you do?" But you did something and that is so cool.

Posted by katie at April 17, 2004 11:35 PM

not meaning to troll, but arent you a bit intolerant by taking the fool's sign?

Posted by jon at April 18, 2004 12:57 AM

You stole their sign? (LMAO) I *love* that! People leave stuff at our church all the time - like magazines from the american family association, or focus on the family. Some how they always end up in the trash. Hmm... Wonder who keeps throwing them away??

Posted by DJ at April 18, 2004 07:39 AM

So let me get this straight. You're in a chruch. Someone else's church. And they don't have the same beliefs you do. So you decide their right to free speech on their privte property isn't acceptable to you, so you take the sign. And yet it's always the Christians who are called hypocrits...

Posted by Billy Rhythm at April 19, 2004 07:41 AM

Look Billy and Jon, you big jackasses, she didn't say she was innocent, she ripped the goddamn sign down. I'm a sinner, she's a sinner, we're all damn sinners. She stole the sign and she's proud of it. She's not covering it up, unlike crazy right-wing pigs. Christianity centers around acceptance of all people. Even those who are outcasts and historically the subject of ridicule and fanatic hatred. If you recognize and give dignity to someone who is considered an outcast in society, in Christianity this is seen as doing the same for Christ Himself. To spit upon a person who has been the subject of prejudice and disdain for all time, where is the dignity in that. And where is the Christianity in that, huh, huh?

Posted by Katie at April 19, 2004 11:43 PM

Katie, my point is about tolerance. Intolerrant towards gays = bad.
Intolerrant towards Christians = good.

Just seems hypocritical to me, that's all. You know, the pot calling the kettle black?

Posted by Billy Rhythm at April 20, 2004 01:41 PM

My point is, those people are not really Christians.

Posted by Katie at June 26, 2005 11:35 AM

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The Loss of a Friend

I've finally decided to blog about something that's been bothering me for some time. I'll probably get really sad and cry (not that you'll be able to tell since I don't have a webcam or anything), but I really want to get this off my chest.

In early January, Jeanna, my best friend of almost seven years, and I were supposed to go to the museum. Unfortunately, her mother got really sick and we weren't able to go. The last time I talked to her was a few days later. He mother was doing much better and we hung up with our customary love yous and the promise to see each other soon.

A few weeks went by and I hadn't heard from her despite leaving messages. Around the end of the month, I finally get her at home. She says she's on the other line, but she'll call me back soon. I ask her if she's mad at me for some reason and she pauses. She promises to e-mail me, but I still hear nothing from her.

A few more weeks of me leaving messages goes by and around the end of February I manage to get her on the phone again. This time when she says she'll call me back, I ask her if she really means that. She says she doesn't know. I ask her to at least tell me why she's mad at me and she says, "I'm sorry, I can't," and hangs up on me. I was on my way to meet a friend at the local country and western club. I proceed to get totally shitfaced and spend about two hours sobbing my heart out on her shoulder. I finally leave, though I'm not sure how I managed to make it home between the hysterics and the alcohol.

Since then, I've sent her a few e-mails and left a few more messages. They go unreturned and the one other time I managed to actually get her on the phone, she hung up on me again.

In my whole life, I'd never met anyone that I'd felt as close to as Jeanna. Losing her has probably been the hardest thing in my life - even harder than when Steven and I broke up. I always imagined that we'd be there for each other no matter what.

The worst part of it all is that I have absolutely no idea what happened. We were fine and then suddenly she couldn't even bring herself to talk to me. I hadn't seen her at all in between the last time we talked, so I'm at a loss to see what could have so radically changed.

I had hoped by giving her a little time that she'd be at least willing to talk to me, but that doesn't appear to be the case. I finally deleted her information out of my phone so I would quit calling her when I'd had too much to drink (I'm terrible about drunk dialing).

I've been thinking about her a lot this week since last weekend Mr. Air Force and I were talking about self-confidence, something I've always lacked. Losing Steven and then Jeanna really was a huge blow to my self-image this year. The two people who are supposed to love you the most - love you no matter what - left me and it really did knock me for a loop. It's especially bad because I don't know why she decided not to be my friend anymore. For quite some time I was convinced that I must be some kind of horrible person (thank you, Christine, for fielding my "Am I a bad person?" phone calls).

I know I act like a nervous dork around Mr. Air Force and while some of it is just adjusting to getting back into a relationship with someone new, I know a lot of it has to do with those losses, especially Jeanna's. Part of me always wondered if Steven would really be the one that I ended up with, but nothing in me ever doubted that Jeanna and I would be friends forever. I miss her and I always will. I wish she would at least take the time to tell me what happened.

I guess I'm a bit melancholy today and I still really miss Jeanna. For those of you wondering, I don't miss Steven anymore. It's kind of strange how completely over him I feel. I guess maybe time will give me the same perspective on Jeanna, but I don't think I really believe that. To be adandonded the way I was is going to puzzle me forever.

Deep down I know that I'm a wonderful person. I'm smart, funny, interesting, nice, kind, generous, and a bunch of other adjectives. I just wish I could believe in this more and try not and let her leaving bother me so much.

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Hey hon - I'm with ya here. I was "dumped" by someone I had considered my best friend. We met as juniors in high school and she was one of only 2 bridesmaids at my wedding. Yeah - almost ten years of friendship and being there for her and all of sudden she thinks I was "against her like all the others". She has not contacted me in about 3 years and it was her lost. I thought back at what happened and my only explanation is that she sort of lost it mentally. The last few months of our frienship she had become quite paranoid and thought everyone around was conspiring against her. I hope she found some help or went into counseling and that she is OK, wherever she may be. And yes, it took me even longer to delete her information from my PDA. The pain will subside but the questions never do. {hug}

Posted by cybertoad at April 14, 2004 07:15 PM

Kymberlie, I don't know what to say, but I'm sorry that you've lost your friend. It really, really hurts to lose a friend and it's even harder if it seems to be for no apparent reason. I hope that someday she'll give you some of the answers you're looking for.

Posted by Natalie at April 14, 2004 07:58 PM

I am so sorry... I really hope you guys can find each other again!

Posted by Adelle at April 14, 2004 08:58 PM

The breakup of a friendship can be almost, if not more, painful than a breakup with a lover. I know how horrible it feels, and I'm sorry you're having to deal with it, too. If you need to talk, please know that I'm here. *hug*

Posted by D at April 14, 2004 10:00 PM

And gosh darnit... people like me. ;) (Sorry, just had to add on to the wonderful person sentence at the end!) I know one thing though - *I* like you. I would never up and dump you like that. Any time you need someone to field those phone calls, you just call me up! *mwah!*

"You may be my momma, but you're not my baby's daddy!"

Posted by Christine at April 14, 2004 10:44 PM

"why" would be the question i'd keep asking myself if a friend dumped me. fortunately, as far as i know, i've never had anyone dump me as a friend, but i've done my fair share of dumping. there comes a time when enough is enough and you just have to draw the line. however, from what you've said, i don't know how anything like that could've happened between the two of you since you hardly saw each other... but even then, there is no excuse.

the friendships i've severed was because the so-called friends took advantage of me. my generosity, my advice, my shoulder-to-cry-on. i didn't it was fair of them to dump on me, and when it was my turn, i got nothing. however, when i let these friends go, i really let them know why.

i hope you get some kind of closure. it's hard to take when you've been kept in the dark.

Posted by eggwife at April 15, 2004 11:49 AM

Damn the woman!! Hopefully some day the reason will surface and it had better be a damn good one -if I do say so myself. I am starting to realize that things good or bad happen for a reason. Maybe the simultaneous dumping made way for a new life that you are about to embark on. You never know..if she had still been around would you have ventured into the things you're doing now?

Posted by smoores at April 15, 2004 11:59 AM

Kymberlie, I am so sorry you lost your friend. I don't really have any basis for this, but I can't help but think that this has something to do with Steven. Friends don't break up with friends without an explanation. Perhaps the explanation is too embarrassing for her. I don't know. This probably sounds reallys stupid.

Posted by Marie at April 15, 2004 12:00 PM

Here's an anecdote that provide comfort/hope. I "lost" 2 friends in a short period of time (one a girlfriend, one an oafish confidante college friend), and it devastated me (oh, yes, and I was also very unemployed and close to bankruptcy, which really didn't help things). I felt entirely "in the right" and "above blame" and that was the awful thing. Now, two years later, I have reconciled with one of my friends; you'd be surprised how lazy and habit-forming people are about keeping in touch; it's just hard to stop being a friend, and anger is rather fleeting. I still await the other person's return (the ex-girlfriend). That still makes me sad, and I admit to still having internal conversations in my head with her, but I've come to accept that the woman in a moment of weakness took the easy way out (by avoiding me) instead of trying to work towards a lasting friendship. . What we were fighting about was not that important and could have been resolved. (and I'm not just talking about the romantic part of it; I'm talking about the friendship part of it). But she didn't want to. And that's the hardest part about friendships; you just can't change people; you have to wait for them to drift towards you. Yes, love and friendship is just a river for tubers, where the current sometimes brings 2 people together, sometimes brings them apart, and sometimes just cause people to rock back and forth in a circle indefinitely. Sometimes you just have to wait it out and hope that the current will bring back the inner tubes of those you most want to lock ankles over. Sometimes, though, it just doesn't happen no matter how hard you try. . And yet I remain hopeful that if you stay on the same river long enough, your paths will cross again, especially if both of you have an unspoken wish for your paths to cross again. Of course, there are other tubes to lock ankles over; surely you realize that many friends await you in the future, but that is little consolation when you miss a specific person.

ON a slightly more entertaining note, I strongly recommend the TV show Classmates on Fox Channel 26 every weekday morning at 9:30 AM(set the VCR). Every day it shows 2 different reunions of friends and romantic partners after getting in a fight/breaking up. It really sheds a lot of light about how stupid are, how stubborn they are, and how embarrassing it is to bury the hatchet after angry words have already been said. And how awful it makes people feel when they don't try to reconcile. Really this show more than anything has provided so much therapy for me over the last few months.

Posted by Robert Nagle at April 15, 2004 06:03 PM

I know that feeling - i've lost friends for no reason too. I feel bad for you - it's never easy to deal with - especially since you don't have a why.

Posted by eve at April 15, 2004 11:47 PM

I know how you feel. My best friend of ten years quit talking to me. She was the only true friend that I could count on for anything. It kills me that we aren't friends anymore. I'm trying to let it go, but it is hard to. I guess it will just take time.

Posted by Ash at April 16, 2004 11:08 AM

You ARE all of those things. I hope you believe that!

Posted by kdeweb at April 16, 2004 02:25 PM

call her with the *67 callblock to try and reach her (okay that's my little stalker tip... but sometimes it might work)

Posted by erin at April 17, 2004 01:19 PM

I'm sorry you're going through this. You ARE a wonderful person. I hope you two are eventually able to at least work things out a little bit.

Posted by Hey Lisa at April 17, 2004 08:54 PM

I started typing this comment about 5 times, and I still can't think of anything to say to comfort you. I have done what your friend has done to you...completely walked away from someone who I thought was a friend. But in my case, it has been because of a breach in my trust in that person. It sounds as if you have not done that. Maybe it is something she has done, but doesn't want to tell you. Something that might hurt your feelings, maybe ...? Just a thought. I wish I could offer anything here that would help make you feel better.

Posted by Christy at April 18, 2004 09:40 AM

I know the feeling all too well. A friend had kept some information from me and I had acted wrongly due to being unaware of the knowledge that he supposedly told me. I then apologize numerous times and am ignored for months, cursed at, and insulted. To make me feel worse he refused to admit any of his wrongdoings. Then attempts at reconciling were met with harsh responses and being ignored. I've decided that he no longer values or wants my friendship so I have chosen to continue on. It hurts to lose the friendship but to try and repair the friendship when one party is not even willing to discuss anything is futile.

Posted by Suresh at April 28, 2005 07:41 AM

My question is though, what happens when you accidentally bump into eachother? Is it better to ignore her and give her the impression that you have moved on (to show that you are not in her control), or to try and be nice?
Either way it is going to seem fake...so honestly what can you do??

Posted by Zach at July 28, 2006 06:42 AM

When i was younger boy, eight years old, i had a fantastic friend called Alistaire. My parents put me in another school after two years of knowing him. A year later i came back to the same school and it was as if we were both strangers to eachother. I was so shy to see him and i never got over it. I still have dreams about it to this day. Don't get me wrong, i am not a nervous alchoölic wreck or anything, its just that deep down, that complex of losing somebody is still there. Life continued, other friendships came, but i never wanted to get close to anybody in case i lost them again. I am 25 years old now, and one month ago, it DID happened again, only this time with my girlfriend. I considered her my best friend as well as everything else! For no reason at all she made cut on a year and a half relationship that we both considered perfect. It was the most heartbreaking change i ever saw in somebody and still don't know why.

All i want to say to you, is don't give up, and if possible, don't drink alchohol. Do fitness and take it as an opportunity to fight back by looking after yourself in a really positive way. There will come a day when you will look in the mirror, smile, and quite confidently say: 'its her loss'.

Posted by at July 28, 2006 06:54 AM

I was fine until I started reading all the stories that have been posted, but have realised that Im still not over the loss of my best friend a year ago. We met when I was 5 and she was 4, and lived next door for years. We went to school together, family holidays, sleepovers, everything. I dont have any memories of my life without her in it. Then just over a year ago we both started seeing people, neither of whom liked the other person's friend! Slowly we lost contact and its been ages since we've seen each other. I have been put in a position where I have to choose between my partner and my best friend.. I miss her so much. Everything I do reminds me of her, everywhere I go we have either been to together or dreamed of visiting together when we're older. I guess I always took it for granted that we would be friends forever, that we would be bridesmaids at each others weddings, be godmothers to each others kids, and then later, grow old gracefully together. This september we will have known each other for 18 years, and we had always planned a big celebration. I guess thats not going to happen, and I will just have to be grateful for the time that we were given together.

Posted by Louise at August 2, 2006 05:46 AM

i KNOW i'M VERY LATE IN DISCOVERING THIS MESSAGE AND YOU. But, PLEASE know that I understand, 1st hand...I don't think I'll ever get over it, unless/until I can understand it.

Posted by Ted at September 5, 2006 11:48 AM

Well it all started a month ago when i was at my friends place.. one night her dad started touching me and stuff and i told him to stop but he kept going anyways.. i reported him to the police and now my friend wont talk to me cos her dad told her not to.. but ive left her alone for a nearly a week and a half and now im afraid im gonna lose her cos of wot her father did...shes the only friend i really got thats girl...:(:(:(

Posted by Carlie at September 13, 2006 11:27 PM

I have just lost my best friend and I can't believe it. I don't even know why. She just won't talk to me anymore. It hurts so bad I feel like I can't breath.

Posted by pinkcloud at September 20, 2006 05:53 PM

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No 24

Damn it! Why is Duhbya on tonight? I want to watch 24! I checked Fox and it said 24 would air on Sunday which, of course, conflicts with Alias. Fucker. Like I want to hear what he has to say.

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Anywhere But Here

Mac decided to play Anywhere But Here, so I shamelessly decided to copy her. Here's my fantasy:

Mr. Air Force and I are on our way to the Atlantis resort and all my cool blogger friends are staying there as well. Of course, as much as I love my friends, they give me plenty of alone time with Mr. Air Force. While there, we all win massive amounts of money (if they don't have a casino, they do in my fantasy) and none of us ever have to work again. The end.

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WinNoise

Ever heard a song made entirely out of Windows .wav files? No? Then go here.

(Link courtesy of Melissa.)

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Nokia 3650 Question

I've got a Nokia 3650 camera phone that I totally love. I send multimedia messages pretty often (forwarding the pictures to people), but for the life of me, I can't figure out how to add a subject line. The e-mails always came with N/A as the subject. Can anyone help me out? Drives me crazy that I don't know how to do this.

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Good Friday

I meant to post my critique of the Kroger's that Mike and I visited the other night (I even took pictures of random stuff with my camera phone), but I was really tired when I got home Thursday night. It was on my to do list for today, but it turned out that Katie had the day off, so I spent it with her instead.

I met her at her new house (which is quite nice, btw) and then we went to The Galleria and met up with Robin. We headed over to Ninfa's for lunch and margaritas where we got carded, which is always good for the ego. Lots of great lines were uttered, including Katie telling the waiter to, "Hold on there, soldier!" when he tried to take her margarita. Afterwards, we did some shopping and I got a cute pink and white polka dot skirt from Express and some adorable striped boxer shorts from Delia's.

Robin had to leave to pick up Eleanor, so we said our goodbyes and Katie and I went over to Williams-Sonoma and this great store called Anthropologie. Antropologie had some cute stuff, but for the most part it was too pricey. They did have these really cute designer toothbrushes, so I got a striped one that matches my boxers because I'm geeky that way.

Katie and I then headed over to Harwin to check out the cheap purses and jewelry. We both got bags and she got some really cute bracelets and necklaces. We then went and looked for found dog posters since Lucy, Katie's beagle puppy, went missing a few weeks back.

It was then time to go back to her house where we picked up her husband Chris (a super nice guy) and headed to the West Alabama Ice House since there was supposedly a sign there about a found beagle. We got there only to find out that the bartender had taken it down a few days ago. He told Katie to bring back a lost dog sign and he'd make sure that it stayed up until Lucy was found. After having a beer, we went over to Barnaby's for dinner where I had the most delicious chocolate chip cookie ever. It was completely to die for.

I'm now back home and exhausted. I'm off to bed soon since Christine's bridal shower is tomorrow in Clear Lake. I hope everyone had as good a Friday as I did (man, I love making lame puns)!

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Happy Birthday, Mike!

Today is the birthday of one of the most wonderful guys in the world, Mike, soon to be Christine's other half.

Happy birthday, dude! You rock! *kisses*

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Fuck Those Dudes

Joelle's new life motto is so appropriate to my situation with Yahoo!. Fuck those dudes.

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Yafuckinghoo

I went online today to pay my credit card bill and was puzzled by a charge of $173.25 from Yahoo! Geocities. I called Yahoo! and apparently, despite them not even having a current credit card, they've been charging me for hosting for my old Geocities site that I don't even think has been updated in four years. When I signed up for Yahoo! Personals this month and updated my billing information they hit me for the last thirty-five months of hosting.

I asked to speak to a supervisor and he told me that since I hadn't actually cancelled the service (and who knows if I did or not? It's been three freaking years!), they've continued to bill and tough shit, I have to pay it (paraphrasing here, but he was an unhelpful jackmonkey). I hung up on him and called my credit card company to dispute the charges. Their friendly customer rep said that Geocities was responsible for at least notifying me of the billing, so I hope I have a leg to stand on when fighting this charge. I certainly don't want to pay $200 for a website that has animated gifs and embedded midi files everywhere. Jackmonkeys.

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Paging Mr. Glass, Mr. George Glass.

Anyone need an imaginary boyfriend? Then feel free to go bid on my brother.

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Mnemonic Devices

Last night while at Christine's house, the original version of Trivial Pursuit came up. I was thinking about it on my way home and was pretty sure that it was called the Genus Edition (it was). That made me think of genus species (the name that all creatures have to identify them; humans are Homo sapiens, you know) and I flashed back to freshman honors biology with Mr. Borg. I remember having to know stuff like that for tests and it made me wonder if I could remember the entire nomenclature. Suddenly the phrase King Phillip Comes Over For Good Sex (we learned it as Spaghetti, but being high school kids, changed it to sex) and I knew it was kingdom, phylum, class, order, genus, and species. Talk about a good mnemonic device! I remember that from almost fifteen years ago.

At the last Tiara Happy Hour, though, I was talking to Mac and a few other people (I think one of them was Natalie) about how Mr. Air Force had given me directions to meet him the first time which included north and west. I told him, "Hypothetically, let's say that one doesn't know which directions north and west are. What would that be with lefts and rights?" (Hey, I wasn't in the Air Force; I have no idea. I still have to make an L with my left hand to make sure I've got left and right correct despite having a genius level IQ.) That discussion brought up how, in third grade, our teacher taught us Never Eat Soggy Waffles (going clockwise) to remember which way the directions are. To this day I still think of it and that was twenty years ago or so.

Anyone else have any mnemonic devices they use?

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Katie Put Catsup On Fuzzy Green Spiders and Never Eat Shredded Wheat for the two you mentioned. In piano lessons we had some, but I can't recall those. Something about cows and grass.

Posted by NinaKaye at April 1, 2004 05:10 PM

Nelly Eats Sour Watermellon

I swear I'll never forget that! :)

Posted by D at April 1, 2004 05:56 PM

I alwasy use NSWE in my directions too along with L & R. I prefer both so that the masses would understand ;-)

Posted by irfan at April 2, 2004 10:45 AM

Bad Boys Rape Our Young Girls Behind Victory Garden Walls

Black - 0
Brown - 1
Red - 2
Orange - 3
Yellow - 4
Green - 5
Blue - 6
Violet - 7
Grey - 8
White - 9

Color coding for resistors. Three bands of colors, first two for numbers and the last for number of zeros following. i.e 800 ohms would be Grey/Black/Brown

That's from 30 years ago...I can't remeber the clean version, so please forgive me here, I was an 18 year old sailor then.

Posted by Brian the Red at April 2, 2004 08:43 PM

Roy G. Biv (the colors of the spectrum, in order of length: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo violet)

The musical ones were like Every Good Boy Does Fine for the lines on the treble clef and FACE for the spaces.

We had one for the planets, too, but I don't remember it, so it must not have been that good.

Posted by kalisah at April 2, 2004 10:55 PM

My Very Educated Mother Just Showed Us Nine Planets for the planets, I also heard Every Good Boy Deserves Fudge for the lines on treble clef. You left out Family in your scientific names, though. For some reason, that one always stuck in my head with the actual names, no device needed. Odd. Mickey Gave Pluto Some Puppy Dog Treats is the 7 guest service guidelines at Walt Disney World, but I don't think I could remember what they all are.

Posted by Crankydragon at April 2, 2004 11:47 PM

George Eli's Old Grandfather Rode A Pig Home Yesterday (geography)

HOMES to remember the five Great Lakes

Posted by grace at April 5, 2004 03:23 PM

i still remember how to spell "mediterranean" by singing the letters to the tune of "yankee doodle"...

Posted by dljpdx at May 16, 2004 02:04 PM

well i know one very common one known for math......a hard subject..SOH CAH TOA..which sounds like saok a toe....

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Casa dela Big Pink Cookie

Last night, I called Christine to see what she was up to. She was out running errands, but readily agreed to me coming over to see her new house (which is just gorgeous and really huge, so I think I'll be moving in with her and Mike soon). I met her up at Best Buy and then we trekked over to Wal-Mart so she could get some plants and I could get some pantyhose. Of course, we both spent about $80 a piece, but who can go to Wal-Mart and only buy one thing?

We used to go to Wal-Mart a lot on our lunch breaks when we worked together, but we haven't shopped there together in about a year. Needless to say, we went through most of the store and had a good time shopping. We saw maroon bluebonnets (Who even knew there was such a thing? Of course, it immediately made me think of Mac), scary lingerie sets, and I found a really cute hat that I didn't buy since I couldn't figure out where the hell I could actually wear it.

While wandering past the games section, we saw the Trivial Pursuit Pop Culture DVD Game and decided that two people would be the perfect number for a game, so Christine threw it in the cart and we were off to her house.

She'd also stopped at the liquor store before I came over to buy margarita mix, salt, and tequila (grand total - $77), so after picking up some food at Sonic, it was time to make some margaritas. We ate and drank, watched some tv, and then it was Trivial Pursuit time. Since I am a fount of useless information, it came as no surprise to me that I won both games.

Turns out that Christine has the original Trivial Pursuit game in the blue box (I do too - somewhere) so I've challenged her to an original TP grudge match at some point. I rock at that game.

I finally got home at about 3:30 this morning, but the late night (and face it, I would have just been sitting up playing on the computer anyway) was well-worth it. Good times.

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